Do you know that miscarriage feels like labor. Like the labor you feel when you are going to deliver a living baby. Do you know your water breaks. Do you know you bleed. Do you know that your cervix dilates and your uterus contracts. I tried laying down. I tried willing the baby to live. I tried.
Do you know that there is a baby. A body that you decide what to do with. No Parent ever should have to decide how to put there child's body away. Do you know you cry? So many tears. The shaking, sobbing, rocking, holding your stomach kind of tears that only stop from exhaustion. Mercifully you sleep.
I couldn't handle it. I couldn't carry on with normal life. I asked my husband to care for our oldest three children. I took my youngest two and my broken heart/ bleeding self to my mothers. I laid in bed with the worst headache. My mom and my sister cared for my children. After 3 days I had to face normal life again. I had practiced my everything is fine face. I would manage.
Everything was not fine. I didn't want it to be fine. For a month I went on that way. For a month I told my husband as gently as possible that I did not want to be intimate. I wanted to co-exist. Living side by side with two separate lives. I did not want to be kissed or comforted. I did not want to conceive another child. I did not want to feel "that way". I could not convince myself that I would ever want to feel that way again. I would honor my covenants and remain married. I did not want anything more.
One day I remembered something. I remembered that Christs atonement heals. You know, the way a bone heals. Meaning all better. Meaning you are broken and I fix you. All I had to do was ask him to heal me. I went in my room. I knelt. I prayed. "Father you have sent your son to heal us. I am broken and I need to be healed. I need to be fixed." I was fixed. I was healed. Instantly . That deep depressing longing for the child I lost was gone. The brokenness of my body was gone. I was whole. Jesus Christ said, "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest." Yes I miss my baby. Through Christ my soul is healed.